Posted on 19 June 2012.
Life with Cerebral Palsy is not easy. Sometimes, you feel like you are the ugliest person in the world and that you do not matter to it. The truth is, however, that you most certainly do matter and that you are the most beautiful person. There is a life despite Cerebral Palsy. You can never avoid the CP, but you can make life worth living despite the CP. There are 10 do’s and don’ts for someone with cerebral palsy.
Each time you meet a new person, remember to always smile. You may think that the first thing that people notice is whatever part of your body is affected, but the reality is that the first people notice is the smile. They may notice something is different physically, but will forget about it once you start talking and show your personality. People do not care about physical appearance. When making friends, people look for personality.
It’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Remember to do it on your own time or when you are with people you feel most comfortable with, such as family and close friends. Confidence is key when it comes to a healthy lifestyle. If you let people see that you are fragile, all people will want to do is feel sorry for you. If you let people see you cry, the people you meet will only pity you and not necessarily want to have a continuous friendship.
3. Be Positive
Don’t be negative about yourself all the time. It’s okay to use humour as a way of coping, but if you keep repeating yourself with the same joke, things will start looking down for you as your brain will get used to what you say and will interpret everything as if you really believe in what you say. Life is like a rollercoaster ride. It can never stay in one place. When it’s looking down, hope for the best. When it’s looking up, be ready for the worst. When everything seems to be good in your life, try to enjoy it as much as you can. Don’t think negatively too much, because then the worst may come sooner than you think.
4. Don’t Be Afraid To Get Hurt
Getting hurt is a part of life, whether you are disabled or not. It’s part of living and learning. If you stop making mistakes, you stop growing. Every negative has a positive. Whether it is bullying, a bad relationship, an unhealthy friendship that you are going through, you have to find a meaning for everything. I got bullied from grade 1 to high school. It was the worst time of my life. However, if I did not have that experience, I would not appreciate what I have now. All the people I have in my life now that are friends with me despite what I have. It’s the best feeling in the world when you see that people want to spend time with you and get to know you despite your disability.
5. Believe In Yourself
Life with Cerebral Palsy is all about proving everyone wrong. No matter where you go or how many people you meet, there will always be someone who will bring you down and say you can’t do a certain something, such as play sports, play an instrument, or do well in school. If you truly believe in something, you can make it happen, even if it is the impossible. My parents were told I need to go to a “special school” where there are four students and eight teachers. Being there meant no high school education let alone college or university education. I went to a normal school and am now in college with a 3.0 GPA. I took dance classes, I know how to swim, and I know 3 languages fluently. I have accomplished these things all thanks to those who put me down and thought I would fall.