If you find out that your partner has any of these top 10 common sexual fantasies, there’s no need to repeatedly hit the panic button. It is not necessarily a sign that he wants to act it out in life. Rather, it’s precisely because these male fantasies are considered to be “naughty” or “taboo”.
It doesn’t matter what your fantasy is – the point is that we all have them and they may not be as bizarre as you think. Even if your private fantasy isn’t on the list, it doesn’t mean there are not thousands of other men with the same exact fantasy.
The main thing to remember is to be open-minded and understand that nothing is normal. Every being is unique in his/her own way. If you have another fantasy to share, be sure to comment on our blog. We will happily add the fantasy based on consensus.
1. First Time:
Almost every guy has dreamed or fantasized about what their first time would be like in a company of a girl. Many common questions they would ask: would it hurt? would it be pleasure? would I like it? Given that most men would give up sex for their mobile phones, who knows what goes through their minds.
2. Being A Woman:
It’s not overtly uncommon for men to have such a fantasy. Don’t press the panic button right away. This is usually because the guy is insecure about his relationships and is still testing the waters. Most men before marriage are like that.
3. Gay Sex:
Whether they admit it or not, some men desire to be involved with other men and not always do these fantasies have to be sexual in nature. If your man has this fantasy, don’t be worried or upset, it doesn’t automatically mean that he is gay or bisexual. He may just want to experiment or may just want you to try it out with him.
This is a touchy subject for men, be mindful of the kind of relationship you are in and what type of man you are dating or married to. And furthermore, NEVER put your man down or insult him for disclosing the truth to you.
4. Participating in Orgy:
I like referring to the scene Eye Wide Shut where Tom Cruise ends up at a high-class orgy with nothing but a sea of gorgeous women in masks when speaking about this subject. Having loads of women there for the taking is nothing short of heaven for men.
5. Anal Sex:
This is a fantasy that most men find hard to speak about because their partner is typically scared or finds it a dirty or repulsive chore. It should be a fantasy that is lived under the right circumstances and should be done with a lot of trust in hand.
Should this be your fantasy, take it slow and don’t push. It may come naturally without any rush. With the right communication, anything could be possible.
6. Watching girlfriend or wife with another guy:
This two-timing fantasy is quite common. This is where his partner has sex with another man and is compelled to watch, but is not able to partake. Some fantasies allow for eventual partake while others involve being ridiculed by the other man and his partner.
The idea of being tied up, blindfolded and even whipped by a woman garners a huge “hell yeah!” from men everywhere. A couple of props that ensure we know you’re the leader and we must do as you say really work wonders for our libido. There’s a little bit of pleasure and a little bit of pain, no doubt.
Given that men are highly visual, you probably won’t be all that surprised to know that “dressing up” or role-play is on the list of popular male sexual fantasies. Naughty nurses, sexy secretaries and schoolgirls are among the most popular themes for role playing. I know a couple of guys who wouldn’t mind having their girl dress up in a white nurses’ suit or as a maid in a black dress. You may need to innovate, because the same uniform gets too dull.
9. Paying for Sex:
The appeal of fantasizing a prostitute is because it’s no-strings-attached sex and there’s no performance anxiety on his part because he’s not required to please her in bed. In most ‘normal’ sexual acts, the man is expected to give or do something to pleasure or please his partner — but not with a hooker.
Know your limit because if you are spending well over $1000 on paid sex, you may become too addicted. It’s like lottery, you got to play within your limit.
10 . Public Sex:
You might not be bold enough to try this inlife but having sex in a public place where you could potentially be rumbled is another popular male sexual fantasy that many people attempted to play out. Fear of being caught gets the adrenalin going. For some couples, the top fantasy or ‘cure’ for lack of libido is often the idea of public sex. I guess a fear of getting caught or being seen can really spark a sexual interest.