Friends are very special people in our life. These are the first people we think about whenever we make plans. First people we go to whenever we need someone to talk to. These are the people whom we will phone just to talk about nothing or may be about the most important things of our life. People around whom we can be ourselves and do crazy stuff, without worrying that they might judge us. Friends are the people we can always trust. People who will try their hardest to cheer us up whenever we are sad. With them it feels like they will be the ones who will be with us forever, no matter what !
But is that always the case? Sadly, No. Sometimes it isn’t. Sometimes, when friends grow, they grow apart and there really isn’t a good reason as to why. It just happens, so gradually, that they don’t even realize that it has been days since they talked to their best buddy. In today’s world, where everyone is too busy and occupied in their own lives, BFF (Best Friends Forever) seems outdated.
Following are some of the possible reasons that sometimes friends, even the best of the buddies, drift apart.
1. Communication gap : Different Colleges Or Workplaces
This is a very common reason why friends drift apart despite being in a big beautiful love filled friendship. Once two friends enter the different colleges or join different jobs (sometimes even end up in different cities), friendship gradually tends to fade, not because they want it to end, but because now they don’t get to hangout together and involve in silly things as much as they used to do before. Also isn’t it a heartbreaking fact that when we make new friends, we usually tend to forget the previous ones, unintentionally i would add.
2. Focus On Other (Important?) Things
As people embark on careers, start families, take on more responsibilities, it becomes difficult for them to spend the same amount of time with their friends as they used to do before. Their priorities change with time, and they become more selective about how and where to use their precious time. Though howsoever mean it looks in writing, we can’t deny the fact that this is a natural part of life, and, in no way, wrong. The important thing here is to stay in contact with friends through regular phone calls (at least weekly or monthly), planning trips with families and friends together and not forgetting to wish friends on their special days (birthdays, wedding anniversary etc.).
Friends generally are not very comfortable with the idea of their best buddy being in relationship with someone who will eventually get closer to his/her heart than they are. It is often very frustrating for friends to see the boyfriend/girlfriend of their best buddy often eating all the time that they were supposed to spend together. And hanging out together, along with the partner of their best buddy, also doesn’t seem a nice idea, as they often feel left out on such “dates” and rather feel very uncomfortable as they don’t know the other person too well.
This usually happens when the two friends are following the same career path and are almost equally skilled. It is common to develop a feeling of competitiveness with your friend. While a healthy competition often helps you improve your skills, at the same time getting all mean and selfish to “defeat” your own friend brings negativity in the relationship. The friendship often gets spoiled because of too much competitiveness and a feeling of jealousy and hatred takes over.
While it is common among friends to get into small petty fights from time to time; big disputes, arguments and loss of trust could cause friendships to break up. Sometimes friends mistakenly or unintentionally reveal their best friends’ secrets and put themselves in tough situation. At times friends tend to believe other people more than their best buddy. Sometimes friends may misinterpret each other’s’ words, that might lead to unnecessary fight among them. In all these cases, it becomes really important for friends to trust each other and try to resolve the issue without letting their ego come in between their friendship.