Usually when a story breaks about a celebrity cheating on his wife I see it as another situation of a middle-aged man tormented by his sexual needs. There are underlying causes of extramarital affairs, such as unhappiness, feeling alone and in need of something more. Adultery is quite exciting and provides a sense of purpose to life for some people.
Bill Clinton, Brad Pitt, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Mel Lastman, Donald Trump, JFK all have had affairs and got caught. Although the details are quite vague, one thing is for sure: They were not always honest with their wives and mistresses. Raise your hand if you recognize 1 or 2 of these excuses.
1. I will end it with her soon:
This usually is a man’s way of saying that he does not have enough balls to choose. He probably does enjoy playing both sides and having both a mistress and a wife. Then again, who would not?
2. I am single:
Unless you are George Constanza, many men would not admit to their mistresses that they are married or are in a relationship. They would simply keep going at it until they are caught.
3. We sleep separately:
This is truly a lie. They make it look like they have nowhere else to go and they must be in the same house. Many married men do have a choice and the choices they make a reflective of their attitudes.
4. I am committed to you:
Have you ever heard of the expression, Once a cheater is always a cheater? What is to say that the same person who cheated on his wife will not cheat on you?
5. There is nothing between my wife and I:
Think about it this way….if there was nothing there…the man would not keep going back to the wife time and time again. Again, this has to do with growing enough courage. If the man does not have enough courage, that is a problem.
Jesse James was a gang leader who was born in 1847. He married his cousin- a woman who was so close to the family that she was named after his mother. The couple had two children and lived happily ever after till the gang leader died in 1882.
This former American president and was fondly referred to as FDR during his time. He had met Eleanor when they were children but the two met again at a dinner hosted by Franklin D. Roosevelt’s fifth cousin and Eleanor’s mother’s brother. Even though his mother was fiercely against it, the two got married in 1905 and gave birth to six children.
John Sebastian Bach is a well-known composer and violinist who built the foundation of the Baroque period. He was tied in holy matrimony to his second cousin, Maria Barbara Bach in 1707 but sadly, she died 13 years into the marriage. The brilliant organist did not waste too much time after and was remarried by 1722.
H.G. Wells was an exceptional author and is said to have given rise to the genre of science fiction as we know it today. He married Isabel Mary Wells, his first cousin but the marriage ended after three years. He will always be remembered for his work, out of which The Time Machine was the best.
Thomas Jefferson held the presidential term for 8 years and was America’s third president. He married Martha Wayles Skelton Jefferson, his third cousin when he was 29 years old and they gave birth to six children. She died eleven years later and he never got married again.
