Nowadays, TV shows, magazines and certain websites are filled with erroneous information about the premises of a romantic involvement. However, if we were to believe that everyone is bound to follow the paths as the ones of popular artists, we would be exposing ourselves to the risk of ruining the relationship sooner or later. Let’s review the false principles presented as rules of thumb regarding relationships.
1. My marriage will surely end up in divorce
The available data on divorce and marriage ratio seems alarming at first. However, analyzing the figures more thoroughly, you will soon realize that the vast majority of people getting divorced are not the same ones that get married. To put it simply, the statement according to which all marrying people are prone to get a divorce is bogus. As a side note, if you are the kind of person who enjoys keeping track of celebrities’ marriages, then take note that those relationships are commonly confronted with specific problems (spending too much time apart during video/movie shooting, the millions of fans worldwide, etc.).
2. Couple counseling is ineffective
The couple counseling therapy’s bad name comes from the abundance of parodies presenting a completely deformed picture of the trade. It is easy to understand why married couple have this misconception considering that a large percentage of them have learned about it from movies. Essentially, couple counseling is a therapy technique based on solid clinical evidence that has shown consistently positive results over the years.
3. Opposites attract
While there are many relationships between people with opposite points of view out there, it is necessary to mention that in general they never make it too far. In fact, research clearly indicates that long-lasting satisfactory marriages rely on similarities between the partners. Simply put, when the initial strong sexual attraction returns to normal levels, couples who share the same views and outlooks are left with a comforting feeling of mature love and the pleasure of spending time with their spouse.
4. Children decrease the marital satisfaction
Granted, the birth of a child will affect both the parents and their romantic involvement. For many years now, researchers showed that the marital satisfaction level follows an U-shaped curve, the lowest point of couple contentment being associated with the first child. On the other hand, new studies pointed out the logic flaw of this theory, namely that the research focused on various families at totally different stages and did not examine on the entire transition to parenthood cycle. At the same time, the new studies suggest that couples feel their relationship has improved along with the birth of a child.
5. The empty nest effect
In the 1960s and 1970s, psychologists believe that women’s mental health will start decreasing when their grown-up children decide to move out. While it is true that all parents experience the empty nest effect, their mental health and romantic involvement is not affected in any way. As a matter of fact, there is sufficient evidence suggesting that couples living with their children have less sexual encounters compared to couples living alone.