Talking about sex and sexuality gives the teacher and the school system a chance to share facts, values and beliefs with the students. Sometimes the topic or the questions may seem embarrassing, but your child needs to know there is always a reliable, honest source they can turn to for answers—you.
This article examines top 10 things teachers should have taught you in sex education class, but never did for various unknown reasons. You’d be surprised to known where children get their information from, and it is not from sex ed classes.
1. Why porn is not the best source of education.
Young men in their teen years love the thought of watching pornography on the internet and on television. By the time they are 21, they’ve already seen several thousand hours of Internet porn and read through one or two Playboy magazines. Many of them are about to engage in their first sexual encounter, but have no practical instruction to guide you beyond those videos and magazines. Where’s the practical experience? The schools failed to provide it in sex education classes.
2. Masturbation is normal.
Think of how many problems, this could have solved if young people were just told it was alright to masturbate and self-love when they felt like it? Think of the frustrations, the shame, the confusion that could have been prevented, if they had just gotten to know themselves and felt like it was okay to try new things that felt good and did not hurt anyone for that matter as well?
On that note, think of all the girls who go ages not even knowing where everything is, let alone what will actually be good to do in bed, just because they have this strange notion that only boys have at themselves, while girls — what?
This should be the number 1 priority in sex education classes in school.
3. If you fail to communicate, you will have lame sex.
Perhaps the most important thing that should have been taught to kids in sex education is the idea that, if we don’t vocalize what we need, like, and dislike, things are going to go awry during sex. We’re never going to get what we want, we’re never going have our dreams and passions fulfilled and we’re going to spend more time complaining to our friends about our sex lives than actually living them out one by one. No one should ever be afraid of expressing what they think to their partners, and we certainly should not be ashamed about talking about it. If we could not, then women would be dating mostly guys who refuse to go down on their woman.
4. Women DO need more time to build their arousal.
Porn loves to show horny women who need no build up to have sex and an orgasm. All a female porn character needs to get horny is to open a door to a pool guy with a lousy pick-up line and an average body. In reality most women need more.
A few things to consider when building a woman’s arousal are:
- Her pleasure. Women in porn often “fake” their orgasm – watch Seinfeld and you’ll understand what I mean. Sorry to burst your bubble, but that is almost always the case. In reality, let a woman know you care about her pleasure, as well as yours, and she will be much more likely to enjoy sex with you.
- Her idea of safety. Women in porn don’t have to worry about whether they are at risk. But in life, physical and emotional safety is a big issue. Address her need to feel safe.
5. Odd positions seldom work.
Porn stars twists their bodies into positions that are not always comfortable for them. They do this so so that the audience can get in on the “action” — the penis going into the vagina or anus – in other words “a better camera view”.
The rule is this: if it looks or feels uncomfortable, change positions.
Every woman is different in what positions she prefers and is most comfortable with. Ask her, or watch for how she reacts while in these positions.