Victorious, independent, gorgeous, sassy, chic, powerful and tenacious are all badges of honor that most women wear. Unfortunately, these respected titles lead to a different label for women: SINGLE!
Yes, we all like to prove our achievements and accomplishments, but the reality is that most men prefer the nurturer and none of these personality traits attract the opposite sex, or at least not the ones women would like. If you are this type: “Alpha Female”, you have had your share of “accepting” less than you deserve just to find a twinkle of hope of finding love.
We’ve gone from dating broke students and the unemployed. We accept all their flaws unconditionally including: I have no money to go on a date; I don’t like to plan out well ahead of time etc.
Should successful women really have to “settle” so far beneath our capabilities to acquire a companion? The answer is: likely if you continue the same pattern of finding that significant other. Here are our top ten tips for achieving success when dating:
1. Change your brand
Although your brand has been triumphant for your career it most likely needs to be attuned for a different audience. The product doesn’t need to change but the advertising and promotion does. For example, when filling out an online dating profile, talk about your nurturing and cultivating qualities and not your trade and industry skills. I was a big sister, I like to bake cookies with my friends, I help my elderly people during leisure times.
2. Hold on to the mystery
Do not reveal too much of your life’s story from day one. Men are not communicators in life and really do not want to know every single detail of your life. Do no tell them more than they have asked for, but don’t make it look like you are hiding anything either or lying for that matter.
3. Let the guy lead
Do not call your date and ask for dates or call them just to chat on the phone for an hour two. If they are not calling, they are just not that into you. If you need to talk call your best friend instead! I have been in a scenario where someone actually said the truth about being busy. He resumed the dating business 1 month after.
4. Date Around
Older women should not be afraid to date around and dating more than one person at a time. When they first started dating, there’s a good chance that they went steady with just one person, but things have changed since then. It’s far too tempting for a recent widow or divorcee to begin to date one person right away and stay with him, which is known as a rebound relationship and never works.
5. Let them think they are in control of the conversation
Men like to talk about themselves and really are not that interested in what others have to say. They are better talkers than listeners for the most part but they are not great at talking either. They like to feel the power of controlling the conversation even if you are the real one controlling it. Use your given womanly skills to draw them out and get them talking about themselves.
6. Dress appropriately
If you want a one night stand then by all means you can dress that way, but if that is not what you are looking for then you may want to stick with conservative clothing that sets the right tone. Subdued colors in solid prints work best and show your nurturing and fostering side. Vibrant red says lets have hot fun so stay clear of vibrant colors until the timing is right.
7. Be aware of STDs
Sexually transmitted diseases should be on the mind of anyone dating regardless of their age, but for older women, this is a relatively new concept, especially if you are over the age of 50. They’re unaware of the number of STDs, the symptoms of the diseases and how to protect against them. Women should always remember to practice safe sex and take their time before rushing into bed with a new partner.
8. Throw away the laundry list
It is very simple to view someone and dispose of them for some frolicsome reason. It is natural to look at what we do not like in someone before we look at what we like about them. For example, unless you are short I am sure you have somewhere in your past have passed over someone because of their height. It is only at certain times of the relationships is the man shorter than the women. That is a fact but height is a silly reason not to be interested in someone. Maybe make a list of the top 10 things you do not want in a man to use as a guide and watch your potential grow.
9. Deal with your issues
I am sure we have issues to deal with but getting rid of them is the best resolution before going into the dating business. Baggage is guaranteed but if you are under pressure with baggage that can be dealt with then pay attention to it. If your credit is maxed, then make sure you are not too much in debt when you date. If you’re unhappy in your job, find a new one. If you are overweight, go on a healthy diet.
10. Be honest
Trust is eagerly given at first but it only takes a small lie to corrode that trust evermore. Trying to hide your true self is not the goal but introducing it in little containable packages at a time is better than putting it all out there and scaring someone off. Give them the chance to see both your triumphant and nurturing sides but don’t lie about who you are.
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