Finding out that a girlfriend or wife is cheating on you can be a sickening thought to many men. There is so much publicity about men cheating on women, especially celebrity men, the fact that women sometimes cheat on men is just simply in existent in mainstream media. If you suspect that your girlfriend is being unfaithful, look for a combination of tell-tale signs and clues we list today. However, keep in mind that there is no definitive sign of cheating other than catching your girlfriend in the act.
Controlling the anger:
There are ways to learn to control negative emotions and get rid of the hurt, pain and suffering you now face, due to cheating in your relationship.
The brain is truly an startling device. It is possible to teach the brain to react in certain ways and in horrific situations, in same fashion as it is possible to teach the body to move in new ways for example while learning to dance, to ride a bike etc.
The most important thin to remember: What you are going through is a normal reaction after betrayal and heart breaker. Cheating in a relationship is one of the worst tragedies a man will ever face in life. If you did not feel the way you do after your spouse cheated on you, there would be something wrong with you and your relationship.
It can be that your spouse is feeling genuinely sorry for what has happened and wishes to continue the relationship with you after promising that cheating will never happen again. But even in this situation you cannot feel the same as you felt before towards your spouse. The memory of the betrayal keeps coming back to you on daily basis and is causing you strong mental pain, depression and anxiety. You want to know all the details related to the affair and to the Lover, even though hearing about those things hurts you even more.
1. She pays more attention to her appearance.
Women who start a new relationships often become obsessed with their looks. According to Top 10 List, it is almost certain that your girlfriend is cheating when she suddenly changes hairstyles, starts wearing new scents, buys new clothes (especially sexy lingerie) and starts working out more at the gym (never did before) Assuming that she hasn’t started a new job or had some other big change in her life, take these changes as signs.
2. She becomes vague about her whereabouts
Studies show that it is very common for unfaithful spouses to be very cold about their whereabouts and activities and will make up preposterous excuses to make up for it. If your girlfriend or wife suddenly has difficulty giving an answer about where she was or what she was doing during the day, it may be a sign that she’s seeing someone else.
3. She is more argumentative and irritable towards you.
Cheating girlfriends or wives for that matter may become highly argumentative, nit-picky and defensive. Top 10 List warns that a girlfriend who starts arguing over the small, nitpicky things may suggest that she has been cheating and looking for a way out of your relationship.
4. She is not interested in having sex with you.
The amount of sex a couple has may decrease for many reasons, including busy schedules, depression, stress, and lack of goodness in life. However, infidelity may also be a major factor. Studies show that because emotional attachment is the key for many women in their sexual relationships, some cheating girlfriends or wives may exhibit less desire for their men because they feel emotionally removed from them.
A classic sign of infidelity is when your girlfriend or wife starts working more–a lot more than she did before. Research shows that this suspicious change in work schedule can manifest itself in different ways: leaving the house earlier to go to work; coming home later than typically; or claiming to have many business dinners (a load of bologne). Take note: do you see a pattern to these extra working hours? Even so, that may be a sign that something is wrong. Keep in mind that if the job is new or she has recently received a promotion, there is no need to immediately suspect that she is seeing someone else.
6. She keeps jealousy in check.
Don’t delude yourself into thinking that your woman would never cheat and don’t rush to judgment either; if she is guilty of committing any signs on the list, perhaps it’s indicative that something is awry in the relationship. In any case, this is a great opportunity for you to address problems you may not have noticed before scanning this article.
More importantly, don’t let what may just be a bad case of jealousy taint your perception of her. Reading her the wrong way or jumping to conclusions can permanently sever a relationship; get all the facts before you confront her.
One sign that she may be cheating is that she detaches herself from your side of the family family. She may also stop hanging out with your friends and family as well, giving you some of the lamest excuses ever. The reason women do this is out of remorse or guilt. She feels guilty about cheating and will feel less pain if she does not immersed in your life- including family or friends. Remember, the less mental baggage she has holding her back, the easier it will be for her to commit the deed.
8. She develops a mysterious friend.
Peter Spalton, also known as ‘The Dating Doctor’, says that women who cheat will often create superficial friends to throw suspicious partners off course. He says: “You may find that she goes out with these friends regularly, maybe the same evening each week. She might even come up with a reason, maybe work or a hen party, so she can stay overnight.”
9. She becomes more secretive.
If your partner becomes increasingly secretive out of the blue it’s one of the obvious signs she’s got something to hide. He says: ‘She has her phone on silent vibrate and carries it with her all the time. She gets up when you’re both watching television in the evening to go to the loo and takes her phone with her. She seems anxious and gets agitated if you ask her if everything is all right.’
Scent is another important sign of a cheating partner, but if she suddenly starts wearing a new fragrance, the alarm bells need not to go off right away. She might be simply trying to spice things up in your relationship or sex life, depending on how well it goes. Going off the deep end too soon could damage your love life — and may lead to divorce. However, if you smell another man’s cologne on her clothes, hands or neck, then she may be planting her lips where she should not. Watch out.
This article will prove helpful to a lot of men. Some of my ex girlfriends have cheated on me in the past, and they did show one or more of the signs discussed in this article.
I have never been cheated on and would never like to. I think it is a horrible thing to do and go through.