Parents are next to God. They love their children very much. They care and nourish them since childhood. But at times, you think that your parents don’t love you. You feel awkward and sad. Your parents also want you to fulfill their wishes and they may also be sad and disappointed from you many a times and also get angry and the kids feel that their parents don’t love them and treat them badly.
This article is basically about the things or behaviour of your parents from which you would come to know that your parents shower love on you. Below are few points regarding your parents behaviour.
1. Don’t share things with you
Parents should be very much frank with the kids like their friends. They should share everything with their kids. If your parents don’t share their important things with you, you may feel left out and also that you don’t have much importance in their life. You would get a negative feeling that if your parents really love you they may would have shared things with you. You see many of your friends telling you stories related to their parents and you would really feel sad if your parents don’t share much with you. You feel left out and also don’t feel important to the parents.
2. Always scold you
You would feel very bad when you are always scolded by your parents. Many a times, you are scolded mainly because of your sibling. You would always feel that your parents love your sibling more than you. They also don’t even love you. You would not want to spend quality time with your parents as they always scold you. You may be in your room always or hanging out with your friends rather than spending or sharing things with your parents. If you have done something wrong, you should confess it to your parents then they would love you and you may get very little scolding.
3. Don’t treat you nicely
You feel isolated when your parents don’t treat you nicely i.e. if they don’t behave properly with you. Sometimes, your parents don’t talk to you nicely because of their mood or any sort of work related pressure. Whenever your parents are having a fight, dare not interrupt or you will be in danger. Never ever argue back whenever you have a fight with your parents. You will feel very bad when your parents don’t behave properly with you and whenever you and your kin have a fight, your parents will automatically take their side and ask you to not to fight with your sibling over small issues. They scold you more than your siblings.
4. Don’t buy you things
You will feel very bad, frustrated and depressed when your parents don’t buy you things. For example, if they promised to buy you a PlayStation, then they deny that they will not let you buy a PlayStation. You will feel very sad as they broke their promise. You will feel that they don’t love you that’s why they don’t buy you your desired things. Many of your friends would show off their new things, which their parents bought or gifted them, and you would automatically feel depressed that your parents don’t gift you your desired items. Children feel humiliated on being disrespected by the parents and also if they break their promises. Many kids have told their friends about their new gifts but many parents don’t let them buy new gifts then their friends will also make fun of them. They would feel ashamed.
5. Argue with you
Whenever you and your parents argue over a issue and they scold you very badly, then you would conclude that your parents don’t love you. You really feel very bad. You get hurt as you are very close to your parents and they only scold you. In anger, you also even say to them that they don’t love you, they don’t say care and affection towards you. Your parents will also get hurt by hearing all this. While arguing very much, you also get beaten up and think that wish you had different parents. You wish you had parents similar to that of one of your friend , as you find their parents more loving then yours.
6. Interrupt in whatever you do
Many parents have a habit of interrupting or correcting their children. Due to this, you would think that your parents don’t love you and they also scold you irrespective of whatever you do. For example, whenever you go somewhere, your mother interrupts you by saying that , ” Where are you going?” , ” When will you come?” etc. You will really get frustrated and think that your mother does not love you and she also don’t even trusts you. You will feel very bad and depressed and think that your parents don’t love you and they don’t even let you do your work yourself. You will feel that your parents do not trust you. If your parents really trust you then you would know that whatever you do, you would do it with responsibility and they would love you as their kid and then tehy would not interrupt you with your work.
7. They call you selfish
Your parents think that you are selfish, you only think about yourself and don’t even share with your siblings. Whenever you play together or have a fight, your mother would often complain that you are selfish and don’t care about your younger siblings and you only think about yourself. You will feel sad that your parents don’t love you and they only love your siblings that’s why they are calling you selfish. Your parents will also call you self- centred and they will now onwards start caring more for your siblings. You really get hurt if your parents call you selfish or any short of different names. The child would really have effect on their mental health by being called selfish by the parents. Even many of their siblings would also tease them that you are selfish and we don’t want to play or share our things with you.
8. Don’t spend time with you
When your parents don’t spend quality time with you, you will feel left out. You will also feel that they don’t love you as if they loved you they would love to spend time with you and share things with you. Suppose if both the parents are working, then they would be busy doing their work and you would feel that your parents don’t love you. You would have to just pass your time by watching T.V. or playing with friends and not by spending quality time with your parents. Your parents don’t listen help you sort out your problems and their is almost no one with whom you can share your things. You will automatically get depressed and conclude that your parents don’t love you.
9. Care more for your siblings
When your parents love and care for your siblings, you will feel that you are left behind and they don’t love you. They tht your parents love your sibling more than you. Your mother prepares their favourite dishes and you have to eat them and your father chocolates to your siblings. Whenever you and your sibling have a fight, many a times your parents would take your sibling’s side and would ask you to give them your things. Then also, you will feel that they don’t love you. Your parents will ask you to help your siblings or do them a favour and you had to do all your work by yourself. You will feel really bad when being your parents they don’t take your side or support you, you will feel that your parents don’t love you.
10. They start losing trust in you
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Another name of relationship is trust only. But sometimes your parents say that they don’t trust you and won’t let you do things alone or go out with friends. They may also doubt upon you whenever you say something and they don’t even believe you. They think of you as an immature person. You will feel sad that they don’t love you and that’s the reason they are losing trust in you. Your parents keep a eye on you always and also keep on asking what you are doing. Parents always trust their kids and love them more than they deserve.