Friends are the people who come into our life for no reason and they just stay with us in all our happy and hard times. A life without friends is a life lived incomplete. Each part of our life we have different group of people as our friends and live for them. It happens that some of the most deepest desires that we can’t share with our parents can be well communicated to our friends. A best friend is as good as being your sibling.
In course of time friends almost become a part of our family. They also play a major role in taking the most important decisions of our lives. They don’t hesitate to scold and correct us when we are at fault and also they make sure they run up to us to share a happy moment. Even a small chocolate is broken to be shared among friends. They are at their best when they pull your leg and they will make sure that you laugh out loud even in the toughest of your situations.You might feel they are not always available to you but when you feel you want them, they will be by your side bashing you up asking what’s the matter. Friends make such important part of our lives. The true example for this is the reason why we celebrate ‘Friendship’s Day’ as a big festival indeed all around the world. We just don’t realize how we make friends but once that bond is established it’s something you just can’t afford to lose because friends are priceless. These are the few issues below that can cause a crack between friends but make sure you overcome them to stay as strong ‘cheddy buddies’!
1. Not giving them their space in life!
Friendship is not something we can buy in a store and sell when we don’t want it anymore. It is so obvious that everyone demands a space for themselves. But what is wrong when your friend demands the same? Your friend gets into a relationship and all you feel is that he/she has no time for you anymore. Don’t let space for this feeling because it’s completely wrong and major friendship break ups happen at this time. Know that your friend is up to start a new life and encourage him/her with it. Don’t end up with a feeling that someone else is taking your place because for your friend your place is very unique in his/her life.
Friends are meant to be earned and never lost. Search the lost ones right now and live a complete life!
2. Respect them.
Just because they are your friends it’s not fair to rule over them. They are also individuals with self respect is what we need to realize. Respecting them as a human beings and valuing their life makes everything go simple and nice between friends. Call them out and not feeling good and scolding them when they can’t make it is just being too immature. We got to respect their duties as we do ours. When they have taken a decision in their life, don’t ever speak behind their back on the decision they have taken. Give them a chance to correct themselves when they are wrong and that is when you respect them completely for what they are.
3. Let your friends know your life partner!
Sundays and national holidays maybe the only time you get to spend time with your family and this is the only time your friends get time off work. Either of them will be hurt when not given importance. The best solution to this problem is to let your partner know your friends and feel comfortable with them so that enjoyment can be together! Friends are the ones who are by your side in the first quarter of your life and the remaining is taken over by your life partner. These two important people are to be taken good care of or else life becomes a big mess where there are chances of losing both of them in your life.
As I mentioned earlier, a friend is almost a sibling. We tend to share everything possible with them. Then, why should we feel jealous? When you don’t like something in your friends, make sure to go up to them and tell them right then and when you like something, then also go up to them and tell them how nice it is. This automatically keeps jealousy away and prevents disasters in friendship and your friends will be yours forever. Don’t hesitate or think twice when speaking to your friends. Be an open book to your friends and appreciate them in the steps they take.
5. Being over possessive.
Possessiveness is an in built character in all. We say we don’t need everything but all our mind thinks of is, ‘all that is mine is mine’. We just can afford to see friends getting closer to someone else or hanging out with someone else. A new entry to a group of friends itself causes a big disaster full of cracks and breaks. Is it because we are possessive or over possessive? Being possessive is a great feeling friends cherish but being over possessive is a disease. What so ever, just trust your friend and she/he will come back to you and you can show the world how amazing your friends are.
6. Neglecting them-not fair at all!
It is not easy to stay in touch with all your friends or maybe not everyone is talented to do this. But when they come up to you, never ignore them. Time is such a precious entity that no one would want to waste. Time being such and expensive thing that stops for none and when your friends want to share it with you, it just says how much you mean to them. Even if you neglect they come back to you which shows how much they know that you need them. So don’t ever give a chance and stay connected!
7. Fighting for silly reasons.
To fight, you may get plenty of reasons but to let go, all you need is no reason. Why fight with someone who is already ours? Reasons are a big heap from which you need to pick, but when you just burn up that heap you will realize all that remained with you are your friends. When caught in a tough situation, the first person whom you would run up to is your friend. It is not difficult to cry in front of friends. Don’t ever create a misunderstanding just fighting for unnecessary reasons because although it might be forgotten but it shall remain etched forever.
8. Not being honest.
From kids to adults, we have come across this saying ‘Honesty is the best Policy’. We have read so many stories but have we implemented this in our lives? It is a common notion that once told, a lie has to be kept covered by further lies there is no end for it. I accept it’s not easy to speak the truth but then all easy things aren’t.
When friends are always with us and forever bringing a smile on our face, why and how could we lie to them? We might get scolded and yelled for a mistake but at the end all they realize is we are friends and it’s when we speak the truth that we don’t have to think twice before speaking. So it’s best to spell out the truth and make this friendship, a bond forever.
9. Not staying in contact-Ego??
Ego has brought failures in people’s life and nothing more! An egoistic person is never accepted by the society. Why bring this ‘Ego’ among friends? There is nothing as who is great and who is not among friends. Generally like minded usually tend to become good friends. Then, there is no scope for ego to interrupt in between and even if it does then it’s our duty to wash it away and live for them who live for us!
10. Money matters-Not a healthy sign!
Many people in this world feel ‘money makes man’ but they fail to realize the very true fact that ‘ Man makes money’. It was man who invented money. Why do we give so much of importance to something that was created by us and not us? When we go out with friends we generally worry about how much money we need to carry. But why be so formal with friends!Why not just stop giving importance to this ‘money’ and start valuing relationships. Let’s keep in mind that today it’s with us and tomorrow it’ll be passed onto someone else. Money does not stay with one but friends do. Keep them safe and spend on them as much as possible cause nothing is more expensive than sticking on to good friends.