Parents are a gift of god. As soon as an infant opens its eyes parents are first ones they see. Think over the fact that when we were just little kids we were pampered by are parents to such a great extent. But as we grow up it sometimes happens as the generation gap between us and our parents widens we tend to drift away from them. The reason behind this can also be the lack of understanding between them. It’s mostly misinterpreted that parents are always right but shockingly enough it even happens the other way around. Sometimes parents are so over possessive or protective that they end up hurting you. It is not intentional on their part but things turn up in such a way that you are the ones getting hurt. These things might affect you abruptly. Therefore read on to know examples of things that your parents do that might hurt you. You might have been through it. Take a look to know!!!
1. Lack of encouragement
There comes a time in life when all of us need encouragement. It can be before any new venture you are about to begin or any failure you have faced. Well in such times if your own parents discourage you by further scolding you how will you feel? Won’t you be left disheartened? Encouragement on the part of parents is a necessity. Children look up to their parents for almost everything then why not for facing any difficulties. It’s through your encouragement that children learn to face problems. But when the opposite happens they feel scared to even share their problems or secrets. They stop trusting their parents and expect a negative response towards anything they do.
2. Being insulted in front of friends
You have invited some friends home and suddenly out of the blue your mom or dad comes and yells at you in front of them due to some mistake of yours. Well this is wrong not only do the children feel embarrassed but also insulted because they are let down in front of their friends. They feel angry as well which might lead to disobeying on their part.
Owing to the over possessiveness parents often impose too much of restrictions on the children. You are not allowed to go out with friends, don’t watch television, and keep studying all the time. isn’t this a bit over the top? I mean how can you expect your children to live with such restrictions. Childhood is a tender age you should enjoy it too. If you grow up in a closed environment you will end up with no exposure. And this hurts the children especially when they see their friends doing the same things. Obviously being allowed to do anything you want is too much but restrictions should be imposed only on necessary things.
4. Favoring one sibling
When you are in a family with one or two siblings you might come across this problem. Parents love your sibling more than you or that is what you feel. Often this happens with the girls of the family or the elder ones. Though people seem to have adapted well with the issue of equality but still in some places this still is a query unsolved. And also the younger ones escape the scolding of the parents which later on falls on the elder ones. In such a situation either the children learn to compromise or they might keep it as a pinch throughout their lives. Whatever it may be this leaves the child quite hurt.
5. Lack of time
Do you have both the parents as working people? Well then you must be quite familiar with the fact that you are left alone with nobody to talk to. You are often left with the television screen in front of you. This hurts the child from deep inside. They suffer from lack of love from their parents. The relation between the parents and the child somewhere drifts apart. Both the parents work from day to night and do not spend time with their child which is a necessity. The children become such introverts that they hardly ever speak to anyone. They get detached from their parents. They are not able to express their feelings. Often in such cases as they grow up they do not respect their parents.
6. Decisions regarding future
Often when it comes to taking decisions regarding the future parents are seen to be acting superior all the time. They do not allow the children to choose the stream of their choice for studies. They are seen imposing their decisions upon the children. Therefore often children do not excel in studies as their interest lies in some other stream. It’s not realized but this affects them to a great extent they start treating studies as a burden and may even have to face failure a couple of times. It is imperative that the children should be allowed to choose a stream of their own choice. This boosts them up to give in their best or else unknowingly you might end up hurting them leaving them disappointed.
It’s very obvious that nobody likes interference in their lives especially not once you are grown up. It is the tendency of many parents to interfere in their child’s life to such a great extent that it becomes a bit irritating. It’s like your freedom is snatched away. You are not free to do anything you want. Even if it’s the smallest of issues you have to tell your parents everything. This sort of behavior snatches away the only chance of the children of learning to live an independent life. Come on give your children little space. They require exposure too.
8. Not appreciating you
Often parents possess a nature of never appreciating you. You might end up with the utmost hard work but are never appreciated in return. Whatever you might do to make your parents proud they never seem to be satisfied. All that they come up with is more of expectations. No matter how much you give in your efforts are never counted. Such a reaction from the parents is not quite common but many of you must have gone through this. Not being appreciated leaves you hopeless. It even kills your will to work more hard.
9. Lack of trust
Trust is a matter of issue whatever relationship it may be. The same goes here. Can u imagine how it feels when your own parents don’t trust you? You have to answer a series of questions even to go out friends! You end up arguing with them over the smallest of issues. Lack of trust comes as lack of love too. You are so much disturbed by this issue that you end up thinking that your parents don’t love you. Not trusting your children is the wrong thing to do. It weakens the bond between parents and the children. You don’t feel like sharing your problems with them. You do not want to talk on any issues assuming you will never be trusted.
Relatives come over for a visit and your parents start comparing you with your cousins. Isn’t this a usual sight! Comparisons are always disappointing. They let you down. It makes you feel inferior or low in front of the other people your age. Often parents embarrass you by making comparisons between you and the others. It can be in terms of academics, behavior or any other aspect. But whatever terms it may be in it is disheartening. It makes you feel like the odd one out. Often the self confidence is let down. It does not boost your morale but hurts you from within.