Top 10 Ways to Spot those who are Vulnerable and Self-conscious

Vulnerable people are those who are at a greater risk of abuse than others. The abuse may be of any kind. Be it physical, mental, sexual or social abuse, vulnerable people are hit the worst. They have either lost their contacts with the family, their friends or relatives or those who are in need of financial or mental support. In a broad manner, speaking of the age restrictions on the vulnerable people, there is none. These days since the definition of abuse has changed, vulnerability has also changed its meaning.

Is a certain aspect of your looks bothering you? Does it bother you to the extent that you have stopped to go out because of it? People are wary of their looks, the twitch in the eye, their accent and sometimes start to doubt their abilities. Self-consciousness, as we know it is an acute sense of self awareness. It is a preoccupation with you and the worst part being that it is a bad habit. People start to worry themselves about everything they see and observe. Why is there a group of chattering and laughing? Are they talking about me or are they bitching? Thousand such questions will pop in a self-conscious person’s mind. How can such people be spotted? You might never know that the person you have been acquainted with so far might be vulnerable. You might be self-conscious about a thing or two. If you are worried, then here are 10 ways that can guide you through calling someone vulnerable or self-conscious.


1. Narcissist


Well, before I start with the negations of a narcissist person, I would like to add to it that I am a narcissist myself. I have a small handy mirror on my bed. Most of the time, I look into it. Does that guarantee me a self-conscious? It is up to the observer of course. If he thinks of it as an excessive compulsive disorder then you might say I am one. But if not, then I simply got lucky! The crux being look for those spending too much time in front of the polished metal and you will have the culprit.


2. Thought bubbles

Thought bubbles

The thought bubbles do not seem to leave you no matter how hard you try. They seem to haunt you in the days and at nights. Of course, you cannot see them. How do you think then we will be able to identify those with serious problems at their hand. Poof! Yes you read it right. Burst their thought bubbles. And you will have them back. It is possible that there is a twitch in their eye which makes them think twice and thrice about their appearance. Dialogs start to take shape and then form meanings in their heads before you can even guess what they are thinking of. It might be a tough job identifying. Good luck with it!


3. Guilt


The guilt of having done the wrong thing always bites you in horrible ways. There are ways in which you can ensure that the person in question is a vulnerable and highly self-conscious about himself. He feels guilty about the small errands and wants the time to reverse itself and take him back where he erred. Quite eerie? Before you go out venturing and thinking yourself out to identify such people, take a seat back and look into yourself. Are you the person being talked about here? If yes, then stop worrying yourself for every petty thing and if no, then you will find a lot of excuses to peak into others’ lives.


4. Pride


A self-conscious thought is one where you are so absorbed in yourself that you forget that you are living in a societal world where you ought to care about others as well. Talking about self-conscious behaviour, it reminds me of vulnerability where the condition can aggravate manifolds. When you start to take pride in yourself, you begin to take care. But when it becomes an obsession on your part, you should take precautions. It is quite simple to spot those who are self-absorbed and take too much pride in talking about themselves. Talking of loving one?


5. Empathize


Vulnerable people often empathize with others around them. Your core vulnerability lies in your emotional self. The state which is most dreadful to you is the state where you open your heart out to others. You fear that the person will take you for granted and will surely start abusing you knowing your weaknesses. When such people who dare to be vulnerable in spite of the cruel world, their empathy shows.


6. Share your knowledge

Share your knowledge

When you put yourself out to others, they will know that you are being honest and showing your sensitive side. You can definitely be trusted. The person will feel comfortable in your company and will start to share his secrets as well. You may never know but your friend might turn out to be a big vulnerable person at heart and trying to hide his true feelings. Until and unless you share your knowledge with them you would not realize their soft corner and their self-conscious side. You will learn about a whole new self of them. Brace yourself up for the surprises to knock at your door!


7. Action


Do not take people’s criticism to the heart. People often dwell on the fun being made of and keep on carving out evil plans to avenge them. People often react violently to others and display their vulnerable side. Rolling eyes, closed fists and shaking legs are the common signs if you want to know whether the person has taken your joke in a light headed manner or secretly planning to burn you in his mind. Take precautions!


8. Embarrassment


Cheeks flustered red even when there is no flirting involved, eyes down and unable to have eye contact. If you think of these to be the symptoms of a terminal disease then I must tell you that you are wrong. Of course you would not be thinking in those lines. Vulnerable and self-conscious get embarrassed very quickly. Their skin goes red and they start to have butterflies in their stomach for no good reasons. It is a common scientific fact that blushing and embarrassment go hand in hand. In fact it is the best way to identify a potential self-conscious person. It is and outward manifestation of the things going inside your mind. It can even trigger anxiety in adverse situations. It is a self-perpetuating habit and a learned behaviour.


9. Excuses

Excuses me

Intentionally avoiding social situations, you are on alert. Some people sweat a lot; they need to carry a cloth with them to wipe off the sweat. Or they avoid the conditions as such. Excusing oneself from any sports or other physical activities will not help you in the long run. It will only aggravate your behaviour near masses.


10. Dwelling nature

Dwelling nature

Sometimes we laugh off at the jokes made on us and forget with the others. But there are people who start to think about themselves once they are mocked at. They tend to dwell on the jokes and think if they are really worth anything. Too much for a human being, right? In a friends gathering, you suddenly crack a joke and everyone is laughing except one or two. Then you have caught your self-conscious friends. If you are taking much time to get over a joke, then it is high time that you get over the excessive self-consciousness.

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