What is the best part of being in love? The first few months, undoubtedly. The first few months when the world goes topsy turvy and the two people in love can’t stop gushing about it. There is endless romance, uncountable number of promises, dreams of a future together, going on days, talking till the wee hours of the night and what not? Already a few years together? Welcome to reality! Your partner annoys you now. His or her habit of calling up seems suffocating, talking till midnight and even beyond it makes you feel like an owl. Meeting up more than once a week seems a bad idea! Dates? What dates? Things get even worse with people who have been married for a while. This article attempts to make things better between people in love, is they want at all. These simple and easy tips will work wonders if executed properly!
There can be nothing better than talking. It works like a therapy and does wonders to heal wounded relationships. Talk about anything under the blue sky talk about your work, your togetherness, your family, your future, what went wrong in your relationship, how badly you want to be together. Just talk and pour your heart out to your partner and watch as the mystery of making things better unfolds right in front of your eyes. And yes, kiss a lot!
2. Share a 20 second Hug
There are hugs which are friendly, which are corporate and formal. And then there is that hug that generates feelings. The 20 second hug. If everything fails due to some reason or the other, just move forward and hug your partner. Don’t let him or her go or release the hug. As the clock tick tocks and each second passes by, the hug gets more intense ad that warmth it generates is out of the world. You come out of the hug and everything gets better from that point.
3. Go on Trips with Travel Agencies
Wondering why this weird suggestion? When you can go together leaving out everybody else, why on a conducted tour with unnecessary crown around? It is good in a way. You will not know anybody else in the group, alien city, alien people. You have to resort to your partner for anything and everything. He or he will be your only friend, philosopher and guide on the whole trip and this will only bring you two closer.
4. Plan Surprises
No living man can ever get bored of surprises. Plan surprises for your partner. Drop in love notes at any time of the day, buy presents, take him or her out for surprise dates, gift something to your partner that he or she has been wanting for quite sometime now, make a collage of your wedding photos, plan a family get together without letting your partner know. There are so many things to do to surprise your partner, make sure you choose the right one.
5. Role Play
This is fun. When you find that nothing is working out together, switch to somebody else. You two can behave as complete strangers, or two teenagers in love and lust, or like college students who are at loggerheads. The more you continue the game, the more you get into the character and forget who you really are. This just brings back the spark that was missing for so many days, months, years. I personally have never seen a more effective method than this.
6. Woo Each Other
Remember your first proper date? Both of you had spent hours in front of the mirror dressing up and looking good just to impress the other one. So why not now? Just because it has been a while that two people have been together and have seen each other through the best and the worst does not mean they will stop impressing each other. Since you two have known each other so long, you know everything about the other person. Make small gestures to woo the other person. Cook his favorite dish someday, buy that sexy dress you have been eyeing for a while and team it up with all the right accessories and just watch him go ‘wow’!
7. Go stargazing
Those little white shining crystals in the sky can do an amazing job of bringing two people closer. Probably the most inexpensive activity of all that can spice up a relationship and bring back the spark is to look at the starts, together, sitting on the top of a high-rise, or an under construction building or even on a plain ground with few people around. You don’t need to talk much because as moments pass by, you will feel your silence doing all the talking. After a point of time that moment when the girl leans on to the boy and rests her head on his shoulders, that is priceless!
8. Explore a New Place Together
Take a vacation, book tickets and fly somewhere that was always on your wish list. Even better if the place was on both of your wish lists. Every place on the face of the earth has something unique to offer. Explore that new place together. Do not even book a guide. Google for all information, ask local residents, get a map of the place and as you reach each destination, it will remind you how you guys used to discuss about this day earlier. Times have changed, but the love hasn’t.
9. Play Love Games
There are plenty of them available in the market. But make sure both the people are in the right mood and temperament to play any of them. These games are fun and exciting and while playing, those occasional touches just remind you why you fell in love with that person at the first place.
10. Try New Positions
A great part of the spark in any relationship lies in the union of two souls. It is amazing how things had changed when they had their first sex together and have been doing it for years. But now you guys stand at a phase where something as intense sex can’t save your relationship. Time to try some new positions which you haven’t tried before. Google is the knight in shining armour and you can have plenty of new positions to try out for. When two people step out of their comfort zone and try something new together, sparks are sure to fly.