Posted on 22 January 2012.
Bullying is a major issue nowadays. Many schools have adopted the restorative approach, which has the bully and the student being bullied sitting in a room, discussing their issues. Neither one can leave the room if there is no resolution. If you see any of the following signs of bullying, report them to the appropriate people. If you do not, you will become a part of the bullying problem.
When a child is bullied, they don’t feel the need to talk to anyone but themselves. They can stay in their room for hours and hours without realizing that they are alone. The child may neglect their own friends and not make any new ones. If you ask them why they don’t have any friends, they may say, “Because I don’t need any friends.” The child may also be isolated from their family as well. In this situation, a pet such as a cat or a dog may be useful. The pet may be the only friend the child can really confide too.
In times of bullying, a child may feel angry all the time. A child would never smile and would get angry at the smallest of things, such as their mother asking if they want food. The child may come home from school and without even a “Hi, how are you?” storm to their room.
4. Slipping Grades:
Children who are bullied often do not care about school work. They avoid it because even when they are in class, they think about the time they are abused, physically or emotionally. At home, they cry and therefore, have no time to open any books and notebooks. They never listen to what a teacher has to say in class. Make sure you always know how your child is doing at school, once every 2 months at the most, because a lot could happen in those two months.
Children often deny they are being bullied. Reason may be that they are embarrassed because they can’t take care of the situation themselves, or they feel it will go away by itself. Even if you have your child talk to a social worker, they may not say anything to them, especially if you are in the room with them. Make sure you talk to your child’s teachers and classmates to ask whether they see there is something different about your child’s behavior, and whether they think someone is hurting your child.