Usually when a story breaks about a celebrity cheating on his wife I see it as another situation of a middle-aged man tormented by his sexual needs. There are underlying causes of extramarital affairs, such as unhappiness, feeling alone and in need of something more. Adultery is quite exciting and provides a sense of purpose to life for some people.
Bill Clinton, Brad Pitt, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Mel Lastman, Donald Trump, JFK all have had affairs and got caught. Although the details are quite vague, one thing is for sure: They were not always honest with their wives and mistresses. Raise your hand if you recognize 1 or 2 of these excuses.
1. I will end it with her soon:
This usually is a man’s way of saying that he does not have enough balls to choose. He probably does enjoy playing both sides and having both a mistress and a wife. Then again, who would not?
2. I am single:
Unless you are George Constanza, many men would not admit to their mistresses that they are married or are in a relationship. They would simply keep going at it until they are caught.
3. We sleep separately:
This is truly a lie. They make it look like they have nowhere else to go and they must be in the same house. Many married men do have a choice and the choices they make a reflective of their attitudes.
4. I am committed to you:
Have you ever heard of the expression, Once a cheater is always a cheater? What is to say that the same person who cheated on his wife will not cheat on you?
5. There is nothing between my wife and I:
Think about it this way….if there was nothing there…the man would not keep going back to the wife time and time again. Again, this has to do with growing enough courage. If the man does not have enough courage, that is a problem.